Today we often here that we have to be brutally honest in marriage. Yet the word says that reckless words “pierce like a sword”. Instead of letting brutal honesty to hurt our spouse, we can choose to discipline our tongue. There will be times where we need to have a hard conversation, but that is when we need to be most carful to protect the heart of the person who means the most to us. That is when we need to be the most careful to not just speak the truth, but speak the truth in love. No matter what is going on in our lives, we can decide to be respectful to our spouses in public and in private. Even better, we can look for opportunities, everyday, to be more like Christ towards our spouses, and speak words of life. Kindness should be a way of life in our marriages.
Proverbs 18:21 : The tongue can bring death or life; this who love to talk will reap the consequences.
Ephesians 4:15 Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church.
Proverbs 12:18 Some people make cutting remarks, but the word of the wise bring healing.